Reiki for Relationships: People Pleasing Is Not a Love Language

Years ago, I watched a couple in one of my Tai Chi classes do a practice called pushing hands. It’s a simple partner exercise: palms at the wrist, one hand at the elbow, moving in slow, circular flowing movements.

As I watched, I could see an electric blue flash of energy moving between them, forming an infinity symbol. It was very clear that their energy was completely synchronised as they both moved in unison. It was powerful. Peaceful. And amazing to watch.

It made me wonder; what happens when one person shows up with real energy and passion, and the other shows up with a bottomless need and no intention of meeting you halfway? Lots of relationships are like that.

That’s where Reiki can potentially come in. This month’s blog is about how Reiki can help you stop repeating the same relational patterns, stop disappearing into someone else’s emotional needs, and actually feel whole in your own field.

It’s not about cutting cords. It’s about fixing you and taking responsibility for the way you show up in the world, including your relationships.

Reiki for Relationships downloadable PDF - Free Resource

I’ve created a complete guide, with audio instruction, (normally a paid resource), called:

Reiki for Relationships: Breaking Unhealthy Patterns & Rebuilding Connection

This guide walks you through:

• Self-Reiki routines for emotional clarity

• Practices for identifying and releasing toxic patterns

• Loving-kindness meditations to rebuild your emotional centre

• A process for sending Reiki to the past and future

• Journal prompts that don’t let you off the hook

It’s 18-pages of turbo-charged, energy filled, relationship rebuilding.

This PDF is FREE when you register for Reiki Level 1 (20th–21st June).
You’ll also get guided audio practices and a few home truths about what’s really going on when your love life feels like spiritual whiplash.

Sign up here

Reiki for Relationships blog

This month’s blog post pulls no punches. I never usually pull punches, but this one more than…

Reiki for Relationships: Emotional Healing for Toxic Patterns, Self-Love & Real Connection

Forget the fantasy that Reiki is some cosmic remote control for fixing your partner. This post dives into the real work: how energy healing helps you stop chasing, start listening, and unlearn the emotional habits that wreck your relationships.

Here’s what we get into:

• Why people-pleasing is spiritual self-sabotage

• The lie of “cutting cords”: and what actually works

• How Reiki supports emotional boundaries, clarity, and real connection

• The hard truth: healing a relationship starts with fixing you

If you’ve been using Reiki like a relationship Band-Aid, this one’s for you.

Read the full post here

Upcoming Workshops

Here’s what’s coming up if you’re ready to stop reading about healing and actually do it:

Reiki Level 1 – 20th & 21st June: The starting point for actual energetic responsibility.
Includes the Reiki for Relationships PDF + audio resources. And for the first five signups, I’ll throw in a free signed copy of my book Reiki Jin Kei Do: The Way of Compassion & Wisdom, delivered to your door.
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Reiki 3A – 27th & 28th June: For those who are ready to go deeper and stop pretending they don’t know what needs to be done. Time to start your journey into Mastership.

Buddho Level 2 – 4th & 5th July: Meditative, internal, and transformative. For the serious practitioner. (Or the curious masochist.). Buddho is the real deal. This is where Reiki comes from.

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Energy doesn’t lie.
If you’re always the one trying to fix the relationship, ask yourself: who’s fixing you? Start there.

Ready to stop Googling solutions and start working with energy that actually shifts something?

See you in class.
All the best,
Steve

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