What Happens When You Throw Out the Trauma Therapy Rule Book

They say trauma takes years to unravel. That the more complex it is, the longer it’ll take. And in fact, it might not be possible to unravel at all; the victim might just have to learn some coping strategies as a part of their journey, for the rest of their life. And for the most part, I’d probably agree with that. Not that I would know for certain as I’m not a trauma specialist and I’ve never had a desire to become one. Dealing with complex trauma seems like a pretty scary deal to me.

But then...

Less than three months ago, I was contacted by a woman who wanted my help in increasing her sense of self-worth and to help push her in the direction of realising her dreams of being a therapist of some kind. “Easy peasy” I thought. A couple of months’ work and we’ll nail that. No problem.

Well…

As it turned out, this woman had a history of decades of abuse of the most horrific kind (and I do mean horror story level) perpetrated by a pantheon of deeply dysfunctional individuals, some of whom, as I write this, are now lined up, waiting to be sentenced to many years in jail as a consequence of the work we’ve been doing together.

Her trauma ran deep. It was multi-layered, complex and woven through every part of her life. Well, I’m not a therapist (and happily so), but we plunged in and started to tackle some of the core issues around the way she related to herself. I gave her some simple practices to do, some of them meditation based, others guided imagery, journaling and a few other techniques designed to bring her back to herself, that I’d seen work well with others. And I stayed with her. I didn’t have an agenda or a plan, but she had no one else in the world to turn to. One night, following an extremely traumatic flashback, I found her in her car alone, taking pain killers and drinking gin in an effort to end her life. Somehow, I managed to stop her and got her to go home.

And then, when I felt it was the right time, I offered her a Reiki attunement. And everything changed. Her entire nervous system reformatted itself overnight. The multi-faceted flashbacks that she had been experiencing that were manifesting as tangible physical experiences, auditory threats, and clear visual movies of past events, suddenly stopped forever.

Her sense of self began to change; her motivation and energy shifted to a higher level. Over one night, what had been a deeply damaged individual transformed into a person who was motivated, positive and forward thinking. It took just two and a half months from beginning to now, to get her to this point. Not years. Complex, multi-faceted trauma, just vanished.

The real takeaway? Sometimes healing doesn’t need years of therapy. It needs safety. It needs someone who won’t flinch. And it needs powerful energetic tools that can cut deeply. Watch out for the video interview that we’re planning to make sometime soon.

News

New Website Now Live
The new website is up and running! A few final tweaks are still happening behind the scenes, but it’s live and ready to explore. Feel free to take a look: www.stevegooch.co Hopefully, by the time you read this all the buttons will actually take you to where they’re supposed to!

No Blog (again) This Week
With the final details on the website taking priority, there’s no blog post this week. But I’ll be sharing more soon, especially around how healing sometimes moves faster than we’re taught to expect.

Next week, I’ll share more on what happened during this woman’s healing process; why I wasn’t trying to guide it, and how stepping back allowed something much deeper to take place.

Upcoming Events

📅 Here’s what’s coming up over the next few weeks:

· Buddho Level 2 – 1st & 2nd August

· Reiki 3A – 8th & 9th August

· Buddho Level 1 – 15th & 16th August

To book or ask questions, just reply to this email or drop me a message. I’m going to hedge my bets and say, for this last week only, don’t try booking on a class via my website just yet. Contact me directly for booking details at [email protected]

All the best,

Steve